Professor shares 'most important thing to do' when someone is grieving
BBC News reports on a valuable insight from Dr Lesel Dawson, an associate professor from the University of Bristol, regarding grief and support.
The Most Important Thing to Do When Helping Someone Grieving
"The most important thing when helping someone dealing with grief isn't what you say, but that you don't turn away." — Dr Lesel Dawson
Dawson emphasizes that a simple acknowledgment, such as "I'm so sorry and I'm here," can mean a lot. It's crucial to respect the grieving person's pace, language, and need to talk about the deceased.
Understanding Grief
Dawson's own experience with grief began at eight years old when her younger sister was stillborn. She noticed her mother's prolonged struggle and internal blame for the event. This inspired Dawson's interest in psychology and emotions.
After the premature birth of her own son, she reconnected with her mother to discuss grief. She realized her mother still blamed herself, and she encouraged her to show the same compassion to herself.
Debunking Grief Myths
Dawson challenges the common misconception that grief follows a neat, linear process. Instead, she explains, grief is messy, unpredictable, and highly individual. People move between feelings without a specific order, and there's no "get over it" phase.
Avoiding Grief and Its Consequences
Avoiding grief can lead to long-term challenges, according to Dawson. She highlights the importance of conversations about grief, as many people struggle to talk about their losses with family, friends, or healthcare professionals.
Conclusion
Dr Lesel Dawson's insights, shared ahead of an annual Good Grief Festival, offer practical guidance for supporting those in grief. Her work encourages open dialogue and understanding of the complexities surrounding loss.