Our Memorial Garden: A Place to Grieve and Remember
BBC News explores how creating special green spaces at home can help us grieve and remember our loved ones, even if a cemetery feels too distant.
By George Sandeman
When Emma Moore's daughter Mabel died after living just two days, the idea of visiting her in a cemetery felt unwelcoming. "I don't like going to them and I feel like [visits] fizzle out," she shares.
Mabel's ashes are kept next to a photograph of her tiny feet, but Emma wanted a more constant reminder. So, they created a memorial garden dedicated to Mabel, filled with lilies—a traditional symbol of peace that can last for decades.
Andy Langford, clinical director at Cruse Bereavement Support, explains the therapeutic power of green spaces, which can help us connect with our memories.
Botanist James Wong suggests fragrant plants like mint, eucalyptus, rose geraniums, Italian cypresses, and chrysanthemums to enhance the calming atmosphere. He emphasizes that while white lilies are traditional, personal choice should guide your selection.
Emma, despite her lack of gardening experience, found joy in crafting Mabel's garden, saying, "I've enjoyed doing the gardening and planting. It was nice to focus on something."